Sanity rule # 2: Do something that scares you every single day

baby1318997Sanity Rule #2: Do something that scares you every single day

So…what does scare you little one? Noises in the dark? Bumps in the night? Talking to strangers? Public speaking? The dreaded mother-in-law? (Oopsy! talking about myself…) Unsightly facial hair in all the wrong places? Bill collectors! Zoink!

Lets face it. Fear is fear. And we humans seem to let it rent out a lot of space in our heads. Why is that? Well, for one, fear has this way of making our imaginations run mind-bogglingly wild. You know, there could be five billion, two hundred and sixty-nine million scenarios in which something may go horribly wrong! Seriously, the possibilities are endless!

But, it’s seems to me that fear enjoys his powerful stance, the rotten bully. He likes to make our brains melt and ooze with terrifying inferences for the worst. Nothing like a good dose of panic to make a day go swell, eh?

Ok, enough of this unsightly fear factor talk. I myself have found that the best cure for overcoming fear is to face it head on. Nothing like confronting the one thing that scares you most! You know, ignorance is Not. Always. Bliss… Trust me, your situation will only get worse if you ignore it. First it will compound, multiplying endlessly until it one day mushrooms into a pulsating, burgeoning wart on the backside of life. Just not pretty. Don’t. Let. This. Happen. To. You!

This post is about doing something that scares you everyday, right? No, I am not talking about running across a six-lane highway during rush hour in Los Angeles. But I AM definitely talking about the things that hold you back. The obstacles that don’t allow you to get ahead in life. The overbearing issues that seem to paralyze you. Words that need to be said. The positive and not-so-positive choices in life that must be made. The bill collectors. Overbearing debt. People we haven’t spoken to in years. The job we hate.

Sometimes it’s as simple as a phone call. Going back to college. Moving into the next phase of life. Getting out of bad relationships. Doing something nice for us. Being courageous once more.

I do realize as I write this that the possibility for rejection or negativity to incur is relatively high in some cases. I understand though that you’re smart enough to know which battles to fight safely and from a preferred distance. And please, don’t set your expectations too high in certain situations. Some people may not respond in the manner you had hoped for or maybe not at all. Don’t worry, you and FB will still survive. Nevertheless, in your heart of hearts, you will know deep down that you tried. And that’s all that matters. Basically speaking, how will you really know if you don’t give it a try? (Sanity rule #11).

You know, magical thing’s happen when we take steps such as the above mentioned. The air is cleared. From us. From them. From the situation as a whole. The Bogyman of anxiety is no longer controlling us. We now have our power back. Honestly, isn’t that what we wanted in the first place? To feel in control of our situations? For me, it was a decided yes. Don’t let anxiety hold you back any longer.

Do something incredible today. Look your fear in the face and make it run.

~Shea O’Malley

Sanity rule # 1: Minding your own business

494274666c9335cce03b8d3203ead27eSanity rule #1: Minding your own business.

Minding your own business means just that my friend …MYOB. Let me chat a bit concerning this subject because it’s one of the biggest problem areas that people have. For some reason we don’t enjoy the fact that we aren’t suppose to poke and pry into other people’s affairs. Being “helpful” sounds so much nicer than being labeled nosy, meddlesome or intrusive.

Everyone loves a good gossip, don’t they? Yummy, mouthwatering bits of delicious information to spread around like warm peanut butter on a hot day, pacifying our souls with tidbits of tasty chitchat that is not our own. Wonderful! A good cup of coffee and a willing ear is all you need!

Let me tell you a true story that happened to me just last week…

I use public transportation to motor around and about in my adorable little city. One day after boarding, my driver told me this story:
About a week prior, a man had revealed to her that he wanted to ask me out. He had seen me around and thought I was… cute, I guess. She was honest by telling him that he and I were not in the same league. He was not happy with her answer whatsoever, and neither were the rest of the commuters. An entire bus full of strangers began chiding her and sided with the gentleman on his ability to sway me into dating him!

Now mind you, I wasn’t even there! An entire bus full of people decidedly made decisions concerning my dating life without my knowledge or consent!! Aaaggh!
I was so mortified I didn’t know what to say! The bus driver nailed it though; she declared, “Nobody knows how to mind their own business anymore.” Bingo!

Of course, there is always a fine line between sincerely helping someone and just being a busybody. Plus, in today’s world of intense media saturation, it’s a bit difficult to follow this rule as I’m describing. Lets face it; everyone is in everyone else’s business. Just YouTube it and you’ll find out.

Basically, what I’m talking about is personal day-to-day interaction with family, friends, co-workers and acquaintances alike. A good rule of thumb is to wait for someone to ask for your opinion or advise. And don’t criticize! Humans have this innate idea that they’d like to do things their own way without interference, condemnation, judgment, guilt, shame, or manipulation from others. Those are the paperweights of life. Why stick someone under them at all? And pray! Good idea #1 is to ask yourself if what’s about to emerge from your main facial orifice is a good idea. A quick prayer alleviates angst and jail time. Not kidding on that one…

However you look at it my friends, MYOB is just good therapy for the soul. For you and your next…umm…target. Remember, there are never any happy people on Dr. Phil. So stay sane and remember, it is much safer to mind the tulips growing in your own garden instead of perseverating over the unsightly facial warts harboring on your neighbors face… ☺

~Shea O’Malley

The start of this crazy idea :)

db08dd561aad27af06b68627edab80acThis blog started out as a collective joke. Two months after moving to a new city, people began asking me if I had met my neighbors or new friends. It was then that I realized this author had no life. Work and my aptartment had become my one and only constant. I quickly called a friend who was a master at having fun as cheaply as possible without it hurting the pocketbook. I joined up to become the newest groupie. Suddenly, life became fun again. And without trying, the rest of my life soon followed.

One day, I shared my now interesting life to my sis-in-law. I ever so jokingly blurted out that it was my new “get-a-life-program”. My niece gave me the oddest look, confessing that she also needed a life lift. And then it mushroomed like a fast-moving cloud. Everyone I told begged for the same, even encouraging me to start a website. So here it is. The blog of all blogs…(silly me ☺). If you’re bored, by all means, please join. We’ll have fun together…!

14 tidbits to live by…

The fourteen steps to sanity:

1. Mind your own business.

2. Do something that scares you every single day.

3. A rut is nothing more than a grave for the living.

4. Happiness is your choice; take it or leave it.

5. Entitlement is not an option.

6. Your special.

7. You’re not that special.

8. Learn failure.

9. Learn the word “no”.

10. Truth never leaves.

11. How will you know if you never try?

12. Martyerville: the poisonous city of love.

13. Your never too old, it’s never too late.

14. Don’t forget yourself.